Author: Maria Alfano
Life is different after 50 no question about it but is love after 50 different too?
What can you expect your love to look like when you reach midlife and beyond?
Many people associate “different” as something bad, not normal, or unwanted. But it doesn’t have to be.
Different also means, new, exciting, and invigorating. How you define “different” in your relationship will determine if it is a good thing or a bad thing.
Love after 50 is not an insurmountable goal. In fact, everyone deserves love before, at, or after 50.
Love After 50 – How Different Is it?
Growing up, I witnessed my parents’ love on a daily basis. I was intrigued to see them cuddle up on the sofa while watching their favorite tv show. Or, how mom knew exactly what dad wanted for a treat after dinner without him having to say a single word. For 55+ years they were happily married and their love exuded from them.
Dad never forgot a birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas. No matter how late he worked into the night, he always came home with something special for mom.
Mom always had his favorite meal on the table and his clothes were washed and pressed. She enjoyed baking his favorite desserts from “back home” and kept all the old traditions alive for him and for the family.
They had a truly romantic love story till the day Dad left us for his heavenly life.
Is True Love Possible After 50
True love can be defined in so many ways. You are never too old for love. Since 50 is the new 40 – 50 is absolutely, positively not too old for love.
Many folks enter the dating life after 50 for reasons like divorce or the death of a life partner. The best news is that after 50, you know exactly what you want in your next relationship.
- You know who you are and are confident in yourself. You don’t need to hide behind a facade. Going out for dinner means actually eating the meal without feeling embarrassed to eat in front of someone new!
- What you look for in a partner are no longer superficial things like money or looks (although, these things won’t hurt). You look for qualities like kindness, generosity, and the joy of living.
- You know the value of life and you want someone who values it also.
Falling in love can be a little different when you’re older. Now you can take all your lessons learned in your previous relationship and become the best version of yourself. And, oh yeah, you can also look for what you want in a mate by avoiding the things you didn’t like in your last one!!
Finding that special someone with those same values may take a little time, but it is well worth it. The odds of remarriage after 50 go down considerably, but it is not impossible.
Many mature couples opt to cohabitate instead of getting married again. Having done it once, not everyone is up to doing it a second time. Although, after 20 years of being in a relationship and 14 years of living together, and well beyond 50, I chose to remarry. This time, I chose my best friend – a man that treats me like a queen and loves me unconditionally. I have ZERO regrets!
How To Spice Up Your Marriage After 50
- Tell your partner what you want. It’s ok to express your desires and needs. Routine is great at work, to get the kids off to school or their extra-curricular activities but not so fun in the bedroom.
- Experiment. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Just because your partner is looking for new and exciting doesn’t mean they love you less or are cheating on you. It just means, they are a little bored with the same old, same old and want something more.
- Whisk your wife or husband away for the weekend to a romantic bed and breakfast. Spread rose petals on the bed, draw a bath for them, or simply give them that back rub they so desire but you never have time to give them.
- Date nights…I know, I know they are a little cliche. You will be surprised how much fun and how much closer you will become when you take the time to enjoy each other’s company.
How often you make love after 50 is also important. It is not unusual for this part of the relationship to be strained when the stresses of the day leave you so tired you have no energy for anything else. However, many successful and happy couples over 50 recommend that sex be made a priority and is maintained at least one time per week or 3-4 times per month.
In Summary – Love After 50
Love after 50 is not only possible, it is a very real phenomenon. You don’t have to struggle with loneliness or feeling all alone. Your companion is waiting for you. You just need to go out and find him/her.
Isolating yourself at home will not bring someone magically to you. Get out there – join a gym, go shopping, take a vacation, or do anything else. Just get your butt out of the house so your next perfect someone can find you.
We would love to hear your story about romance and love after 50. Leave us a comment about how your love life changed after 50.
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